mercredi 4 septembre 2013

Plan B

All my life has pretty well much gone according to plan.  I did well in school, had my choice of University with scholarship, met Nathanaël young, got married, have had no troubling conceiving...  When everything in your life goes according to plan it is very easy to believe in the illusion that you are in control.

This summer I read Pete Wilson's book Plan B (a book I had initially picked up to help me minister to others, because my life has been so plan A)...

And here we are Sept 4th in a Plan B situation.  Our plan B situation is not difficult or devastating like the loss of a family member, unemployment or illness, but this plan B still serves to remind us that there are a lot of things in life that we don't control.

Our house is still for sale (has been for just over 3 months), we haven't been able to purchase our tickets to head overseas yet because we need to wait for the house to be sold.  We thought we'd be packed and ready to go by now, but, we're still here.

Here's what Pete Wilson says about control in our lives:

`You know why these things frustrate and anger us? They're reminders that control is an illusion- and we don't like being reminded of that.  We want to control the outcomes in our lives.  We want to win if at all possible.  We want to be right.  We want it done our way.  This powerful desire leaks into our marriages, our jobs, our parenting.

And the danger for most of us is that not only are we tempted to think we hold the strings to our life; we really think we get to write the script...`(p.23)

So what do you do when life isn't going according to plan.  We trust God.  Here are some things God says about our lives:
    Jeremiah 29:11-13
    For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm youplans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 
       Phillipians 4:6 
       Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and          petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

So last night Nathanaël and I prayed together with open hands a simple prayer.  Lord this is your house and our lives are yours.  We trust you.  We trust your plans for our lives.


dimanche 1 septembre 2013

The times they are a changing... (and my changing relationship with STUFF)

We are in the unique position of packing everything and sorting through all kinds of things.  We are keeping that which is really important to us and getting rid of the rest.  God has been, over the past 6 years, helping us become less attached to goods.... because as I like to say it's not going with us when we die!!

Many of you will know that 3 years ago we had to deal with a mould situation!  That 'forced' us to get rid of a lot of stuff we had been holding on to... For example 100$ English textbook I had been keeping just in case I might need it someday (instead of selling it back to the campus bookstore right after the course was done)... Mouldy = 0$ and garbage!  I couldn't even give it away!

Well, deciding what is worth storing is a great process... goodbye birthday cards from 5 years ago, goodbye class notes I haven't looked at once since graduating, goodbye photos from trip to the aquarium (the only photos that seem to really still be interesting a year later are those of people!!).

We also had an offer on our house that, unfortunately, fell through- but it included almost all our furniture- that was interesting, but really helpful in the end because we realized we were willing to get rid of more than we thought we wanted to...

One of the things that has held me back from wanting to get rid of furniture, was to think about the cost of replacement.   Definitely getting rid of a dresser (selling it on craigslist for 50 dollars for example) would cost much more to replace, if I were to buy brand new... But if I am willing to buy used then I haven't really lost anything because I can likely find something (if I am patient) for the same price I sold ours for.

So here are some little things I have learned

1- Buy used, sell when done, buy used, sell when done etc...  (cost of use becomes very little!)
2-If you haven't used it or looked at it in a year, you very probably don't need it!

AND

Times are changing.  I had a huge box full of cards from Josué's birth, I have a small envelope for Noémie's.  Things are becoming more and more electronic (e-books, online streaming for videos) and some of this technology is helping us to have less material (physical) goods.

We discovered many perks to having less... it is easier to keep the house clean.
Less stuff means less upkeep and less mental space.  Less worry about theft or damage or loss too.

So happy sorting!


Noémie 6 semaines- Noémie 6 weeks



Voici notre princesse, maintenant, déjà 6 semaines... Tout se passe très bien avec elle.  Elle aime beaucoup dormir et pleure rarement plus que 10 secondes!   Ceci ne veut pas dire qu'on n'a pas besoin de la consoler, mais elle est consolée facilement en marchant, en la bercant, en bondissant sur la balle, en allaitant etc.
Le temps s'est arrêté pour nous la première semaine ou deux, on s'est juste concentrée sur elle, mais là, comme toujours le temps a recommencé et passe vite!!
Noémie se retrouve dans notre vie, un peu unique, de rangeage constante de la maison (pour la vente) et de tranquillement vendre des choses et faire nos baggages... Nous sommes très reconaissants à Dieu pour une petite princesse assez calme dans cette période de transition!!  Elle commence à sourire et à observer.  Elle est magnifique!!

Here is our little princess, already 6 weeks old.  She is what many would call an easy baby, easily comforted and still sleeping a lot!  We enjoyed the first week or two where time stopped a little for us and we focused just on her, but now time is whirring away again as we keep the house clean for showings, and get ourselves ready for the big trip.  She is smiling more now which is lovely.  We love her!!!

mercredi 31 juillet 2013

The economy of Craigslist

Preparing for baby number 3 was a completely different venture than preparing for baby number 1.  Here's what preparing for Josué looked like.

-2 hour long trip to Baby's R Us with good friend (already a mother) and using the store's checklist to go through and scan item by item onto the registry.
-Receiving multiple gifts from baby showers (we were blessed)
-Purchasing (and receiving as gifts) 500 dollar crib, mattress, mattress cover, change pad, change pad covers, high chair, bouncy chair, nursing pillow, baby bath, pack and play, play mat and the list goes on, baby carriers, stroller etc....

And here's what we discovered:

We didn't need half of it!!!

Over the past 6 years our priorities and our views have changed a lot- we have become a lot more environmentally conscious and we have discovered our parenting style (attachment parenting) which is actually a style that requires VERY little material goods.

We co-sleep (so there goes the crib, the mattress, the sheets, the pack and play- which honestly was a hassle to get baby down into to sleep anyways).
We breastfeed on demand (there goes the need for soothers, or bottles- we go right to cups when the time is right)
We carry our babies (there goes the need for a double stroller (although it does come in handy for a suitcase or two during travel)... which natural child spacing due to breastfeeding and the fact that we carry our babies a single stroller could have done us fine!

Here's what preparing for baby 3 looked like:

-Not needing any clothes (my very generous friend with a 2 year old daughter has passed on ample and more clothes for our baby girl)
-Ordering half a set of organic cloth diapers from motherease (we still have a half a functioning set from our 2nd)
-Finding a new toddler bed rail for our bed on craigslist (15$) Nat gave ours away by accident
-Buying an ergo baby insert (which was actually an exchange in a store for some girl clothes we received but didn't need).

And voilà our baby is good to go!!!

Over the past 6 years I have shed my snobbiness towards used goods and realized it is just plain smart to buy things used  (and then re-sell them).
My friend bought her ergo baby used off craigslist and sold it two years later after plenty of use for just 5$ less... She was able to use and enjoy one of the best (and most expensive) baby carriers out there for her for only 5$.

And that goes without mentioning the saved environmental impact!!!

Famille de 5 Family of 5

Well we are pleased to share the arrival of our newest Noémie... She is beautiful and so far a great nurser, great sleeper and pretty content!  God knew that she would be the 3rd child in our home and the aventures we'd be up too and so she is fitting in great with our family and we are truly enjoying getting to know her.  Here are some pictures you might enjoy.  Nat made some homemade hammocks that the boys really enjoyed.

Nous sommes heureux de célébrer l'arrivée de notre Noémie.  Elle est belle, boit bien, dort bien et est assez calme et heureuse.  Dieu savait qu'elle était notre 3e et que nous comptons sur elle pour s'adapter à nos aventures ;)  Nous sommes vraiments contents d'apprendre à la connaitre- Elle est vraiment un cadeau de Dieu.  Voici quelques photos (dont quelques unes dans le hammock que Nat a fabriqué)






dimanche 7 juillet 2013

Becoming???

We are about to embark on a very exciting adventure, a year abroad in France!  This is a unique opportunity, that many people never have, to sell our house, leave our jobs and create a new life for ourselves (at least temporarily)!

God has spoken to us over the past few years (through circumstance and through the Bible) about not being hoarders, not getting attached to material goods and moving abroad is another chance to take that one step further!

When thinking about storing our furniture for a whole year it has lead us to think about what is really important to us and what we really want to keep!  In fact last week we received an offer on the house that included most of our furniture!  (We are not sure the offer is going to go through, but it was a good process for us).

Letting go of our goods has been one process, but another process of letting go (in order to become something new) is letting go of our jobs and therefore professional identities.  Who we are next year will not be defined by the jobs we have (or don't have!).

Next year we will have the chance to decide how much to work, not based on the size of a mortgage, but based on our expenses and the things we would like to do.

We will have more time to build into our church community, strengthen our family connections (both immediate and extended) and take time to do things like cook healthy food and read.

Will we become French?  Nathanaël and I are looking forward to immersing the boys totally in French for a year and for them to experience a different culture.  Living in another culture always helps one re-evaluate the things we take for granted or come to expect.  Surely there will be challenges, but we look forward to a year of growth in lots of different ways.

And likely we will be able to blog more consistently about our experiences and share them with you.  Thanks for reading!

vendredi 29 mars 2013

Piste de vélo Bike track

 We have had a fantastic week and a half of spring break with lots of sun and no rain- perfect for our outside landscaping and paint work- and for the boys to take advantage of our cul-de-sac!  Here you can see we have drawn a chalk bike track complete with different stops in our community:  The pool, our Church, Kati and Ub's house, Josué's school, Vanessa and Gary's house (Benjamin's favorite stop) Nat's school etc.  Josué even added the river and the mountains close by.

 Benjamin figured out the runbike about a month ago and is loving it.  Every day he asks to ride his bike!

Voici les garçons en train de faire du vélo sur notre piste à vélo, fait-maison, avec de la craie.  Complet avec des arrêts communautaires comme notre église, les maisons des amis, la piscine etc.   Benjamin est très à l'aise avec son vélo (sans pédales) et insiste à l'utiliser tous les jours!!

Becoming a better husband and wife

Nathanael and I have totally embraced attachment parenting... We carried our babies, I breastfed, we co-slept etc.  It is a parenting style that has worked really well for our family and we thank God so far for how well Josué and Benjamin are developing.

We had the the chance this January and February to run Alpha's marriage course for ourselves and for 5 other couples.  It was fantastic.  It gave us a chance to talk through a lot of important topics like communication, conflict resolution, sex, love languages etc.  I think the best part of doing the marriage course  though was the emphasis on spending time with your husband or wife.

Attachment parenting (like extended breastfeeding) meant that we weren't able to just leave our babies or toddlers with a sitter and go out for a date (until later when they were more independant, and weaned!).  But we've realized that even if we aren't going out we can still make time together once the boys are sleeping- sometimes this is a cup of tea and snack together while we chat, or watching Downton abbey in french on tout.tv...  The important thing is that we spend time together, and that we talk together.

Marriage is hard work, but it is such a great blessing in our lives because it refines us to be more like God.  If all we have in our lives are superficial relationships then we have little incentive (or need) to grow.  When two lives have no real contact there is very little friction.  But, when we get close (like we can in marriage, parenthood and close friendship) then there is sure to be friction, but this is what polishes us, smooths us out and if we follow God's lead- makes us to be more like Him.

Whether you are a believer or not, I highly recommend the Alpha Marriage course, what a great gift it is!!

http://www.relationshipcentral.ca/ 

Total home makeover!!!


I would have loved to include some before shots, because it really is hard to believe what a difference painting the trim has made to our home!!  Before the trim was a pale yellow (like on the plaque with our #).  Nathanael has put in countless hours over his spring break fixing up our home- and we've been really blessed with FANTASTIC weather so it's worked out well, in fact Nathanael is still outside now finishing up different parts of the trim!  Because we painted the trim in a dark colour (Benjamin Moores' Low VOC exterior paint bittersweet chocolate) it makes the white stucco of our house look much brighter- in fact many of our neighbours asked us if we repainted the stucco...  Our home now reminds us of a tudor house!

samedi 2 février 2013

Green personal care products

Thanks to a request from my friend Kate, here are some pointers and a list of personal care products we use.

Unfortunately personal care product regulation is not nearly as strict as it is for food labeling, so pretty well much everyone and their uncle can use the word organic on a personal care item without it necessarily being true.

If you are are unsure about what products to use you can check out the safety of different items on the Environmental working group's skin deep database.  http://www.ewg.org/skindeep/

This was really helpful for me, because we used to use Avalon Organics hair products and were super surprised to find on the database some of their products rated 6/10 (0 = no toxicity!!) All that while throwing around the word organic!!

For our soap (for the whole family) we use Val's Veggie soap which has 3 ingredients I believe and is made from olive oil.  I even used this as shampoo for a long time and it worked fine!  What is great about bar soap is that you save on all that plastic packaging!! There are other good soap companies out there too- just avoid fragrance (contains hormone disrupting pthalates), parabens (another nasty plastic ingredient used as a preservative).  Basically if you can't pronounce the ingredients....

For handsoap we use Natureclean 100% natural hand soap.  The mint one smells really good.

For our shampoo, we either use the bar soap or we were VERY happy to see that a canadian company green beaver now has certified organic shampoo and conditioner.  Check out their website http://www.greenbeaver.com/  We get ours from superstore (Loblaws)

For our toothpaste we do use a floride based toothpaste once a day and a non-fluoride based toothpaste for the other brush (so far no complaints from the dentist- been about 3 years of this!).
We use a green beaver toothpaste (fluoride free) and Ecodent for the floride and sensitive tooth (rescueDent) toothpaste (Nat has sensitive teeth)- this is way more natural than sensodyne (which is bright green incidentally).

For our deodorant this was a whole journey!!!  To be honest I tried a tons of natural deodorants (aluminum free) and none of them worked well, I was pretty smelly for about a year.  That was until I found soapwalla deodorant cream which works AWESOME for both Nat and me!!  The only days I get a little BO is when I forget to use it!!!  The other thing I love about it is that I can recycle the little tub (not a ton of plastic parts that can't be recycled).  http://www.soapwallakitchen.com/  We order ours through an online store (that is close by so I can pick it up!)  it is fairly expensive but totally worth it and lasts a longtime.

For makeup there are some really great options- I go for the cheaper stuff right now (Physician's formula certified organic line) and I'm not thrilled with the quality, but when our debts will be paid I will most likely upgrade!  They have a decent tinted moisturizer.

We use soap instead of shaving cream, we use a little of our organic shampoo instead of bubble bath (a couple squirts under the running water does the trick).

I actually use a little baking soda every day as a gentle natural exfoliator for my face.  It works really well. I have a little bit in a little tub and use it in the shower. This is much cheaper and healthier alternative to many face washes!

Hopefully this helps and challenges some of you to pitch your toxic skincare products!!!










jeudi 15 novembre 2012

Glacier

Here is a picture of Nat, Benjamin and Luc and Jacqueline in front of the receeding Glacier in Jasper National Park, Alberta.

Our boys/Nos garçons



For about a year and a half, Benjamin has been extremely passionate about marbles...  Here he is at the Vancouver Aquarium showing off one such treasure.  Depuis 1 an et demi Benjamin est passionné de billes...  Le voici en montrant un de ses trésors.

On est fier de Josué car il a été choisi pour participer dans 2 cérémonies de mariage cette année.  Il portait les bagues.  We are proud of our handsome Josué who was a ring bearer twice this summer!

jeudi 8 novembre 2012

Having Principles... a real cure to consumerism

Over the past few years as our family has been on this journey of becoming green, we have developed some serious principles....

And once these principles are in place and we stick to them, they are actually really good for our pocketbook- it is very hard to find things we can actually buy!

Here are some of the principles we've developed- a lot of them with the help of Adria Vasil's ecoholic- A fantastic read!!

1) Cotton is one of the plants that, if it's not grown organically, requires the most pesticides.  So for clothing we have a couple of choices:  organic cotton clothing or clothes made out of wool or recycled materials.

2) If we can't be certain the clothes being sold weren't made by children or people treated and paid poorly we don't buy them.

3) As much as possible we avoid plastic all together-  it has a limited capacity for being recycled, keeps putting the demand on the crazy oil and refining industry and eventually could end up taking 2000 years to biodegrade....  personally I would like my life not to leave a plastic legacy.

4) One can be proud of Canada for our lack of pollution, but if we are sourcing all our goods to China, then it is quite normal for them to have more air quality issues etc. than we do!  So as much as possible we try to buy products made in Canada, Europe where we hope the production, environmental standards are high ( you may or may not agree with me on this one- but in other words we tend to avoid made in China)

So all of these principles make walking through the mall relatively temptation free!!!  Here's an example:  H&M has some organic cotton clothing, but I won't buy from them because I can't be assured of good working conditions for the makers of their clothes!

Here are some stores we can buy from in good conscience:

Mountain Equipment Co-op (they have organic cotton and recycled polyester clothing and the labour conditions are verified by a 3rd party)
Hemp & Co  (on Vancouver Island) clothes made from organic cotton, hemp etc.  lots made in Canada.
American Apparel has some organic cotton clothing and everything is made in the USA

But the greenest store of all:  ANY thrift store!!!  So many things that aren't yet available in earth friendly materials we can buy from a thrift store and at least not be encouraging that industry - we are not in the supply and demand loop!

Hope you find this challenging and interesting!

Catherine

jeudi 1 novembre 2012

Green Kitchen Part 1

This past spring Nat and I got to the bottom of a leak in our kitchen.  It had been leaking for a long long time and so it rotted out our wall, floor and part of our cabinets...  Although no one jumps for joy at news of a leak (and the impending money that gets used fixing it!) we used the opportunity to do as green of a kitchen reno as we could.

The leak was coming from a plumbing vent cap that cracked, every time it rained water was trickling down along the pipe.

We did some good hard thinking and thought about the following things:

1) What will be good quality and look good (which will help with resale)?
2) What will return to nature (or biodegrade) when we are done with it (or when the next owners want to redo the kitchen again!)?
3) What will have low or no VOCs and give us good air quality in our home?

With these things in mind we decided to go as plastic-free as possible...

Here's what we decided on:

Floor:  Plain ceramic tile from Home Depot  (there was a recycled variety available a Rona but only in 2 colours, so we didn't go with it).  No VOC grout from a tile store.

Cabinets:  Solid wood and Plywood cabinets made from a local company:  Maple Ridge Woodcraft.  This meant no chipboard held together with glues that can offgas.

Countertop:  Ice stone- recycled glass and concrete surface.

Lighting:  6 potlights- LEDs with dimmers.  This thanks to our friend and Neighbour Peter- what a blessing!

Paint:  Benjamin Moore's Natura no Voc blue paint and Yolo Paints No voc cream paint.

Backsplash:  Hand-picked of the beach pebble sticks from Mosaic Stoneworks- where the owner assured us the workers were treated decently and paid decently too (we don't have 3rd party certification for this one- but the owner has been to see the conditions himself so we are trusting him on it!)

We were really blessed to have 2 of our neighbours help out: Peter & Ken.  Nat is really a lot handier after this experience!  We also redid our bathroom but I'll blog more about that later!

It was an expensive reno because we decided not to do a quick fix, but by January it will be mostly paid off!  So we have no regrets about the choices we made!    Here are some pictures!





mercredi 31 octobre 2012

Long time no blog...

It has been a really really long time (since March), but I forsee some time over the next few weeks to do some blogging especially about becoming Green!

Since March we have done a green kitchen reno (will post pictures) and we have equally lots more of regular life to post about like our trip to Ottawa and to the Rockies...

Not to mention I decided to homeschool Josué this year, so there is lots to say about that! 

And, once I am blogging from Nat's computer I can upload some pictures of the boys too.  Looking forward to getting back into this ;)

Catherine

samedi 24 mars 2012

Les garçons/The boys

 It has been an interesting winter!  We've been figuring out our future plans (no Switzerland for next year) working (and striking), leading the Young Adults (with highs and lows), and Nathanaël gone to France for a week and a half for his sister's wedding...

The best thing about this winter has been the boys.  More and more it is evident that time is short.  Josué turns 5 this summer, and yes will be heading to kindergarten (full-day) come september.  Benjamin is saying more and more and just this week turns 2!  He is starting to put two words together in mini sentences and his newest cutest word is "Viens!" (come) with an arm gesture to go along- wanting me to come.
 This picture is somehow "classic" of Benjamin.  He is our little monkey, who loves to throw things and get into "trouble".  He and Josué enjoy boy play:  rolling around on the ground, making forts and obstacle courses out of the couch cushions.
 Nous avons passé un hiver intéressant.  Nous avons avancé nos plans pour le futur (pas de Suisse pour l'année prochaine), nous avons travaillé et nous avons fait la grève, nous avons continué à diriger les jeunes adultes de notre église (avec des hauts et des bas) et Nathanaël est parti en France pour le mariage de sa soeur...

La meilleure chose de cet hiver c'était de passer du temps avec nos 2 garçons- nous comprenons comment le temps est court car Josué va bientôt commencer la maternelle.  Cette semaine Benjamin aura 2 ans et il commence à parler un peu plus- à mettre deux mots ensemble.  Tout neuf est 
 "Viens!" avec la geste du bras pour que je vienne.

We went to Mount Seymour for a session of night skiing.  It was a bit too tricky for Josué, so we'll try again next year, or the year after ;)
Nous sommes allés faire du ski- mais c'était un peu trop dur pour Josué.

samedi 31 décembre 2011

A green Christmas/ Un Noël vert

I am happy to report that this year was our greenest Christmas ever! And not because we didn't have any snow, but because we are learning to make better choices.  Here are some of the things we did to have our greenest christmas ever.

We used last year's wrapping paper to wrap up gifts.  We found environmentally friendly gifts for my parents:  for Mom some pure beeswax candles (that way no petroleum products or nasty off-gasing) and for my Dad bamboo socks and organic/natural marzipan stollen bread.  For my brother and his wife we got gift cards- which is a lot better than getting them something they don't want and will just throw away in a few months!  

We also received some great gifts:  stainless steel measuring spoons, the green parent magazine, organic fair trade chocolate and dried fruit, and a used astronomy book.

The boys received a crane by Plan Toys (www.plantoys.com) all wooden and made by decently treated workers in Thailand, who use organic rubberwood, as well as some organic cotton clothing from MEC (www.mec.com).

The best thing of all, since we've been trying to trim down the amount of stuff we have, was that no one seemed to get anything they didn't want and there just wasn't a whole lot of excess.  We loved giving compassion gifts-  The gift of chickens to a family in Africa, and dental care  (www.compassion.ca) and receiving in our honour, a fruit tree given to a family in a developing country (world vision).

With some money I received I discovered a wonderful Victoria based store called Hemp & Co.  There I got myself some hemp and wool slippers to keep my feet warm now that we have hard wood floors!

jeudi 29 décembre 2011

La raquette à Mount seymour Snowshoeing at Mount Seymour




Nous sommes allés avec des amis faire de la raquette à Mount Seymour. Josué a beaucoup apprécié l'activité!! Voici quelques photos!

Here are some photos from snowshoeing at Mount Seymour.  Josué really enjoyed himself.

dimanche 18 décembre 2011

Our boys are Young Adults. Nos deux garçons sont des jeunes adultes.

Quand Benjamin avait deux mois, Paul le Leader de notre église, nous a demandé de prendre en charge les jeunes adultes.  Depuis ce moment là, nous avons adopté le style:  où nous allons, nos garçons vont aussi!  Et depuis Benjamin et Josué ont participé à de nombreux sorties jeunes adultes, mais ont aussi fait parti des moments de louange, prière, et partage.  Nous croyons que c'est une investissement dans leur vie!  Voici quelques photos  (qui date de l'année passée!  Des photos plus récentes à venir).







When Benjamin was 2 months old Paul, the lead pastor of our church, asked us to lead the Young adults.  Since then we've adopted the where we go, our boys go policy.  Josué and Benjamin really are honorary young adults- and we love that our friends have made them feel at home and given them love and attention.  Josué and Benjamin have joined us for many events, but have also been a part of many times of prayer, praise and teachings.  We trust that this is an investment in their lives.  (These photos are about a year old- I'll post some more recent photos soon!)