Nathanael and I have totally embraced attachment parenting... We carried our babies, I breastfed, we co-slept etc. It is a parenting style that has worked really well for our family and we thank God so far for how well Josué and Benjamin are developing.
We had the the chance this January and February to run Alpha's marriage course for ourselves and for 5 other couples. It was fantastic. It gave us a chance to talk through a lot of important topics like communication, conflict resolution, sex, love languages etc. I think the best part of doing the marriage course though was the emphasis on spending time with your husband or wife.
Attachment parenting (like extended breastfeeding) meant that we weren't able to just leave our babies or toddlers with a sitter and go out for a date (until later when they were more independant, and weaned!). But we've realized that even if we aren't going out we can still make time together once the boys are sleeping- sometimes this is a cup of tea and snack together while we chat, or watching Downton abbey in french on tout.tv... The important thing is that we spend time together, and that we talk together.
Marriage is hard work, but it is such a great blessing in our lives because it refines us to be more like God. If all we have in our lives are superficial relationships then we have little incentive (or need) to grow. When two lives have no real contact there is very little friction. But, when we get close (like we can in marriage, parenthood and close friendship) then there is sure to be friction, but this is what polishes us, smooths us out and if we follow God's lead- makes us to be more like Him.
Whether you are a believer or not, I highly recommend the Alpha Marriage course, what a great gift it is!!
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